#6 3 commitments to elevate your leadership skills
As we know leadership can be one of the hardest things to accomplish in the salon and it’s something that we’re always growing to make better.
There are 3 things that really come to my mind when I think about leadership skills.
The first commitment is committing to the type of leader we want to be.
We’re either showing up as a ‘To Me’ leader or a ‘By Me’ leader.
A ‘To Me’ Leader…
Plays the victim in every circumstance
Blames and complains
It’s somebody's fault (not yours) + someone should fix this
Why me? Whose fault is this?
A ‘By Me’ Leader…
Creator
Conveys appreciation
Problems are here to learn from + I created the problem (circumstances) so you can solve it
You ask yourself what can I learn + what do I want to create
We GET to instead of we have to
In every single moment, we’re either acting as a ‘To Me’ Leader or a ‘By Me’ leader and it’s up to us which type of leadership we want to sit in at that moment.
The second commitment is taking radical responsibility.
Radical responsibility means that we are able to identify the cause, own it, and vocalize where we can shift “what did we learn, how can we grow”.
Being able to take full responsibility is where transformation begins.
Taking responsibility is NOT constantly blaming ourselves because blame comes from a place of shame and guilt.
Taking responsibility is taking ownership of the results and being willing to look at the role we played in creating those results, especially if we didn’t get the ones we wanted, and where we can shift things and find solutions.
When we do this as leaders, we encourage others to take responsibility (this helps cultivate leaders). In order to do this, we have to live it and your team has to see it come from you. We need to commit to supporting others to take full responsibility for their lives.
The third commitment is living candidly.
Candor is being in a state of all thoughts, feelings, and sensations while being honest, open, and aware.
When we are able to choose candor it will help to increase leaders including ourselves, the leadership team, and the rest of our teams can see reality more clearly - in the end, this can lead to solutions.
When we withhold versus speaking candidly we can decrease energy and ultimately create disconnection with the team.
Living candidly means that we choose to reveal rather than withdraw. When we choose to reveal (even if it makes us “wrong”) we are building trust. Trust is the core of showing real love, whereas control shows fear.
It’s important that we speak with candor AND conscious listening is just as important. Listen for the content, the emotion behind it, and the basic desire that someone on your team is trying to express to you.
Wanna learn more about showing up as an authentic leader? Check out the full podcast episode below, 3 commitments to elevate your leadership skills.